Saturday, April 6, 2019

(F) FAMILY & FRIENDS (#AtoZ Challenge)


Most married couples are earning a living in different cities away from their hometown. Their life revolves around office chores and colleagues (whom we assume to be our friends). 

I have always felt pangs of separation from my family, especially during festivals. But it is not feasible to take holidays during all major celebrations throughout the year.

During pregnancy, this desperation increased. I craved for my family and best friends deeply. I was in touch with them over audio and video call, but their physical presence was dearly missed.

My husband was always there for me, but this phase has its own special emotional needs.

I felt that my friends and family members should pamper me, feed me my favorite dishes and shower all the love that exists in this world! My better half always tried his best, but I was hungry for more. Sometimes I felt very lonely. During the first two trimesters, I always felt the need for social gatherings.

During the third trimester, I visited my parents and things were better. I got the attention, care and pampering that I desired. 

I realized that the entire process of giving birth is not an individual endeavor. It needs all the support it can get. After all, we are social beings.

Do let me know if you also felt the need of people around you during this phase of your life.


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18 comments:

  1. No matter how close the relationship, it's impossible for husbands, such as me, to fully appreciate what their wives are going through during this time.

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    1. You are very right. The one who goes through the same, understands it the best!
      Have a good day!

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  2. I certainly did. And I was lucky to have my Mom move in with us when I was in my 6th month. Truly, it takes a village! Thank you for visiting my blog, Kislaya!

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    1. Sure you were lucky! Even I feel lucky and blessed as I am staying with my parents during this phase.
      Have a good day Vidya!🙂🙂

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  3. Can totally relate to this post. We were in Bangalore until my 8th month. Post diving birth, eventually we decided to move back to Kolkata for good because we wanted the child to grow amidst his grandparents. Beautiful post.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your experience Sonia! Tuneer is lucky to have grown up amidst his grandparents :)

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  4. I love that you both understand the importance of receiving support and that you got it. I think it's especially important as you are about to undertake a huge shift in your life, giving birth and having someone new to care for, that you receive extra doses of love and support to help keep your well filled.

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    1. Thanks Deborah for your kind words! It sure is a huge shift and I am blessed to have the necessary support system. Glad that you stopped by... you are welcome to my Blog :)

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  5. I do not blame you for wanting close emotional and physical support during this time. If men had to bear the first two children, there would only be single children families! :-)

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    1. Hi Roland,
      Thanks for understanding.
      Haha... about men, may be you are right!!
      😬😆

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  6. Kislaya,

    I never gave it any thought that my parents were miles away from us. My reality was we were miles and cities apart so I accepted it. However, I am so glad that I got to be apart of my granddaughter's birth last fall. I'm so happy that miles and cities didn't separate me from this experience. :)

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    1. Hello Cathy,
      Oh I am sorry that distance was a barrier. But I am happy that during your grandaughter’s birth you were not deterred by that barrier!!
      Congratulations 😇

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  7. Family And Friends = Pure Righteousness

    Cheers

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  8. I suppose that's understandable. Pregnancy is such a huge change in one's life, and you need all the support you can get from your friends and family. You feel reassured, even though you're treading into unknown waters. And yes, distance can make it a problem.

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    1. You are very right Chicky!!
      Thanks for understanding. First time is the tough time and filled with lots of learning.

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  9. You're absolutely right. I was fortunate that all through my pregnancy I had my mom, then my MIL and my sister around. It was sheer bliss to have more company even though my husband was there too.

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    1. Thanks Tulika ji for reading!
      You are truly lucky...I got this company only in my last trimester.

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