Tuesday, April 9, 2019

(H) HESITATION (AtoZChallenge 2019)


I am sure most of you have faced the pressures of getting married either from relatives or from your parents. They always say - 'Beta (son/daughter) it's almost time, you should get married at the right age!' Once that is done and dusted as per their wishes, they want to hear the "Good news" soon. 😁

I and my H had planned not to immediately raise a child. We celebrated 2 years anniversary and then we thought it was the right time for having a kid in our lives.

Once pregnancy news was positive, I hesitated to share it with my parents or my in-laws. 

For some strange reason, I felt very shy! Even my H  was hesitant and not sure about the ways to share this news. After mentally preparing himself for a week, he broke the news to my mother.  He could not disclose the same to his father so had to announce the happy news to his sister who acted as our messenger. πŸ™‚

(Trivia - In our tradition, the news is usually not broken to kith and kin until the start of the second trimester. The news is only disclosed to parents and in-laws. This is due to the reason that chances of miscarriage are high in the first trimester.)

Have you or your spouse hesitated or felt shy while sharing your first time "good news"? Do share your experience!


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14 comments:

  1. Kislaya,

    It's been many years since these days. You and your husband are still honeymooners. lol My husband & I entered marriage thinking we did not want children. That was selfish and it took us many years for our hearts to change. We were in our 8th year when we decided to begin a family and when we got good news that I was expecting, we first told our parents. They were shocked to say the least. We did not wait to spread our happiness and told the rest of our family & friends. I guess this means, we certainly were not shy to share the news. :) I am happy that you and your husband are enjoying this new phase of your married lives.

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    1. Honeymooners...lol! Even i thought I will never marry or have kids...but ended up doing both.
      You enjoyed your marriage freely for 8 years - that is great!
      Thanks for sharing your experience :)

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  2. You must share such great news in a way that feels right to you, of course. I am happy for you. :-)

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  3. Aah! The cultural thing.I only hesitate when I have to tell a lie to save my soul. :)

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    1. Hello Sunita ji, you are right that might be the cultural thing😁

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  4. I married late and my entire family was holding its breath to hear the news of my pregnancy. When I discovered a few months later that I was, of course my Mom was the first to know. We released the news to other close members -- as in husband's siblings. But yes, there have been other times when we've only shared news on a need to know basis!

    I identify with the shy part. I felt shy too! :-)

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    1. Thank Vidya Ji...for identifying with the shy part.
      Glad to know about your experience!

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  5. I conceived after 10 years of marriage and relatives from both sides were eager to hear the news. Hubby broke the news first to his mom and then my mom. The news spread and relatives called up to congratulate and at the same time cautioned to be careful. Close office colleagues came to know when I used to be sick in the first half of the day.
    Enjoy the phase Kishlaya G.

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    1. Hi Kalpana,
      10 years - people might have killed you with pressure - "When will you share the good news?" Haha
      Glad that you shared your experience :)

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  6. I haven't felt shy in announcing both the times. I think my sister was the first one I called. And on my husband's side, he informed his parents and siblings.

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  7. Hahaha! Both of you felt shy? :D That is too cute! :D:D:D
    Yes, you're right... we usually don't share the news with the relatives etc till the period of uncertainty is over.

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    1. Hey Chicky,
      Cute...hahah...only we know what was going through our minds and how we prepared ourselves for sharing this news :P

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