Wednesday, April 10, 2019

(I) IGNORE THINGS BEYOND CONTROL (AtoZChallenge 2019)


I am a cheerful soul. Most of the time, I have dealt with situations as and when they occur. I have tried things at school, college and at work - sometimes I have succeeded and at other times I  have failed. But I have quickly moved on. I guess we all do!

The new phase of pregnancy brought about changes beyond my comprehension. I felt like a different person. 

Laziness crept in. I started getting irritated at small things not done as per my wishes. Any comments were unwelcome. I despised food and everything around me. Sometimes I felt very sad. 

The brunt of my severe mood swings was borne by my H. Some thoughts just lingered on in my mind. It affected me negatively. Hormones were wreaking havoc.

During that time, I started watching YouTube videos on ways to deal with such hopeless feelings. I also attended a conference on 'How to handle depression during and post pregnancy'. The prime message was to ignore things beyond one's control. The doctor suggested ways to be happy and to not dwell on a single thought for more than a moment. 

I became more observant of my actions and took time before reacting to trivial things. Normalcy returned.

Did you or your spouse go through such a phase? Do share your experience! 


(These AtoZ Challenge posts pertain to my thought process, physical and mental changes, stress levels, perspective, journey and experience as a first-time mother who has yet not delivered her baby.)

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18 comments:

  1. Good morning, Darlin'!

    I don't recall with my first pregnancy if I felt bluesy but I did have overwhelming emotions with my second and third. I blame those feelings primarily on circumstance surrounding my husband's job but I had to tell myself time and time again these things are out of my control. It was up to be to either push through it or allow it to consume me which wasn't an option. The urge to cave is great and it's easier to do nothing than put forth effort to improve one's mental, physical, and spiritual well being. I'm glad that you found the strength and drive to not let things out of your hands rule your life. Blessings to you!

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    1. I am sorry to know about what you had to face relating to your husband's job during second and third pregnancy. I am glad you kept your faith.
      Thanks for the blessings Cathy...much needed and appreciated 😊😊

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  2. I think all women, all bodies, react differently to the physical, hormonal, emotional upheaval pregnancy introduces into the system. But I'm glad you looked for support and found useful information that's helpful for you - I think that's perfect!

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    1. Yes Deborah...without Love and support I could not have sailed through this journey.

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    Cheers

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  4. I can totally relate to this feeling. My second pregnancy was similar to this. It all passes away but like anything and everything else. Love to you! BTW, thanks for changing the comment option.

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    1. Thanks Nandhini for reading and sharing your experience. Love back πŸ’•

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  5. I didn't have much mood swings. But post partum depression is real. I survived through it, all thanks to a very supportive spouse. So, take care of yourself and talk it out whenever you need to.

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    1. Each woman's pregnancy is slightly different. What with all the hormonal and physical changes going in within you, how could the journey be smooth-sailing. There are seasons to pregnancy. This one will pass. Hold on.

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    2. True Sonia, supportive spouse is a blessing! Thanks for reading 😊

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    3. You are right Roland! Thanks for the words of wisdom. Yes it shall pass...

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  6. I was working in an office when I was pregnant and used to feel tired and sleep. Hunger pangs kept me irritated but colleagues always brought food for me.Every lady goes into various moods and my lady colleagues were a source of advice and strength.

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    1. Wow, your colleagues surely must have been source of your strength through these trying times.
      I totally understand that hunger pangs felt during this phase are of a different level.

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  7. You know, that's exactly what my sister was doing during her pregnancy. While she was very irritated and cranky, but regarding food & sleep etc, she did whatever she felt like.
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    1. I am glad to know that Chicky! Pregnancy shows us a different side of ourselves 😁

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  8. Excellent advice, Kislaya! And what you are feeling at this time is absolutely normal. It will all pass and you'll not even remember it when you're holding your bundle of joy!

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    1. I keep hearing these words and it gives me strength. I believe you. Thank you Vidya Ji

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